My “Secret Subject” is: If you could change one form of discipline you practiced when your kids were very young, what would it be?
So, if you are my friend on Facebook, you know that I have recently been struggling with this very thing. It is hard to discipline Gigi. It is hard, because she is a complex girl. I love her for it. It also frustrates me. She is so very sensitive, and yet so very stubborn. I cannot imagine where she gets that from. So, it just makes successfully disciplining her hard. Then again, that is just part of being a parent eh? Having difficulties, and having to up your parenting game.
If I discipline her, and it hurts her, that in turn hurts me. Plus, it really ends the success of the discipline. If she is not phased by it, it is another failure. I am struggling to find a method that works well. I struggled when she was younger too. I wish I could go back and change my method. I used time out often, and I don't know if it necessarily worked, but at least I got some mini breaks, so I could just breathe.
My biggest issue lately, is yelling. I hate to yell. I hate to be yelled at. I hate to be around yelling. Well, it seems that these days, many times, they only way I am listened to, is when I yell. It gets attention, and they suddenly seem to be able to listen to me. I have been struggling with it for a while, but it did not become a huge problem until recently. Between my grief and my frustration from yelling, I was really feeling down about my parenting.
As you will learn in a post next week, I am working on making some changes in my parenting. I am particularly working on discipline and yelling. So, I wish I could go back and put more focus on effective discipline, when Gigi was younger, and maybe make time out be more productive. I would love to have time out still work as a discipline option.
So, this subject really spoke to me. I am working on improving communication with Gigi, discipline, and working on not yelling. I am doing well on the yelling front. Yay! We are also increasing her responsibilities. Lots of changes here. Luckily, she loves helping out, so some of the changes are going smoothly.
What about you? Anything you would change about your discipline techniques? Any advice? Man, parenting is way harder than I ever even imagined. Of course, it also so much more rewarding than I knew it would be.
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